When I attended a leadership conference a few years ago, my friend shared an interesting concept that has stuck with me throughout the years. In life, we were all born as takers. When we were babies, everything was “mine.” We wore bibs, and we were use to being fed and getting the things that we wanted. At some point in life, we need to strip that bib from off of our neck and lose that self-centered mindset of “Me! Me! Me!” Instead, we should drape a napkin over our arm, like a butler, and go through life with a mindset of “how may I serve you?”  Instead of always asking yourself what he/she can do for you; or what’s in this for me… You should start asking yourself what you can do for others.  The late great Zig Ziglar said it best:

You can have everything in life you want if you will just help enough other people get what they want.

Think about your visions, plans and goals in life and ask yourself why you’d like to achieve these things in the first place. Is your motivating force characterized by what you can get, versus what you can give?  If you were to receive everything you wanted in life, would it change the world, or just yours?  Are your visions, plans and goals created based on the needs of others and derived from a genuine belief that you can help those people get what they want?  Most people’s aren’t, so don’t feel bad if helping others get what they want was not your intention.  Today I want you to rethink your intentions.  The moment you shift from “self-centered” intentions to “others-centered” intentions, you will unlock your potential and change your life while changing other’s lives as well.  If your motives are mostly self-centered, your value is diminished and your purpose is questionable. 

We often have self-limiting beliefs that hold us back from giving ourselves (our money, time, energy) to others.  When we resist giving freely, we send messages to our mind like “there isn’t enough”  “I won’t get anymore” “I feel safer with this in my pocket” “I might need this for an emergency” “I can’t trust other people to do the right thing.” All of these limiting factors hold us back from being a service to others... NEWS FLASH:

The more you hold on to your limited thinking, the harder it is to attract the things you want in life.  Want to receive more? Then give more. It’s that simple.

If you want to get love you have to give love; if you want to get respect you have to give respect; if you want to get help, you have to give help.  Dan Kennedy said, “The window you receive from is made bigger by the window you give through.”  So understand that one of the biggest secrets to wealth is giving. Give freely without expecting anything in return.  Give your all; give massive value in everything you do.  Know that there is always room to give and trust that there will always be more flowing in. The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others (Gandhi said it), so choose an “other’s centered” rather than “self-centered” mindset.  Serve others first before you serve yourself and watch how your life changes…watch how much more of an impact you make on the world you live in.

You are fearfully and wonderfully made.

Blessings and love,

Marti Reed

Marti Reed